Over the past few decades the dating scene is something that has changed drastically over the years. With new types of technology available to us, as well as societal norms, dating has taken on a completely different meaning from what it originally started out to be. There are also many types of relationships that people can have now that have become more widely accepted by all. People now often wonder what the value is in dating, or wonder why they have never been on any dates. The idea of going on a date with a specific person has more connotations around it now than from before.
Going on a date with someone should be a fun, inexpensive outing between two people. This is a way to get to learn about the other person and their tendencies to see if they could become a potential partner. Going on multiple dates with multiple people gives you the opportunity to learn about yourself, and what you are looking for in others. If you feel more interested in a certain person and would like to go on dates with only them, then you should pair yourself off. The term ‘dating’ or having a boyfriend/girlfriend is a lot different than going on dates with people in society today. Now, when people become exclusive, they decide to only ‘hang out’ and be around each other for extended periods of time. They spend time only with that specific person and, ironically, usually don’t go on many dates.
Another thing to be aware of, when you begin to exclusively date someone, is realize they have the potential to become a spouse. If you are not actually wanting to be married to that person, then perhaps you should reconsider dating exclusively. Now, people prefer to cohabit instead of getting married due to their own commitment issues. Sometimes they decide to have children together and move together, but are still too afraid to get married. Personally, I would ask those people, “what is the difference in the relationship they have now than getting married?” It is not impossible to get a divorce, but through marriage it means you are willing to make sacrifices for each other. It all is just more of the same as before.
We should also be aware that marriage will NOT just magically erase any struggles you have had while dating. Some couples believe that marriage will bring only fun and will get rid of all the problems they have had before. This is not the case, as marriage will bring difficulties and challenges to both spouses. Problems will remain unless acted upon and people will not change unless they have a motivating operation.
Enough about marriage! Dating is essential for people to learn about others. When we become more comfortable to date, it has us become comfortable with things we may find awkward or weird. We must prepare ourselves to be used to the unknown or we will never be able to grow and move on in our lives.
I personally, have gone on a date this week and it was somewhat enjoyable. I felt awkward and nervous, but I got to learn more about someone in my class as well as my tendencies. I also learned that I am not entirely ready to go on more than one date with a person because of how I felt afterwards. I learned about shared interests we had and I also got a free dinner out of it! I think I made a new friend in my class, but I do not see myself going on multiple dates with him. I learned about what I value and my focuses, as well as learning about what he enjoyed and his plans. Learning about others is an important lesson, and we should be open to going on dates as a society, without making it awkward.
The youth are the future of the world. When we find value in a loving family, we can find peace in our own homes.
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